October 26, 2012

Why a large family

So many people ask us why would we ever want seven kids and today on Facebook I saw something that explained why Paul and I are so glad that we have a large family:

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’
The professor then produced two beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.The students laughed..

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things—-your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—-and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.. The sand is everything else—-the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and mow the lawn.

Take care of the golf balls first—-the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented. The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of beers with a friend.
If Paul and I would have chosen the grand vacations, the luxury cars, or the huge house those would have been the pebbles in our life. Instead we choose the golf balls; our children. They are what really matter. They will bring us our happiness in life. Our children are everything to us and I can honestly say I would never have chosen not to have all seven if I could have hand picked my journey in life.


  1. Dear family! Have been following your blog since you thought you'd have triplets...instead 4 little ones were added! I enjoy every post and am so happy that things look great for your family!
    Love reading your blog!!!
    Sylvie from the Netherlands

  2. GREAT post!!! I love this illustration and have used it myself in years past as a SS teacher!! You have a beautiful family!

  3. Very well stated! The picture of the kiddos is just precious! LOVE it =)

  4. I can't say it enough- your children (big and little) are so beautiful! They are all dolls. Now I know where that saying came from, because they look like absolute perfect baby dolls. The picture is SO SWEET. As another commenter said, I am just in awe of all you do. You are graceful, grateful and all around amazing!


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